Contrary to common wisdom, 2 out of 3 couples “have a sharp drop in marital satisfaction shortly after a child is born, and this drop gets deeper with each subsequent child.” To avoid this, fathers need to get more involved, and partners need to discuss the family topic as often as possible. Reserve your fifth date to ask each other the following questions: “What does your ideal family look like?”“If you want children, how many children would you like to have?” and “What are the ways in which your parents did or did not appear to maintain their closeness, love, and romance after having children?” Date No. 6: Play with me – fun and adventure on Vulnerable Leadership: 6 Tips on Being Vulnerable as a Leader from Dare to Lead Facilitator Kathy Bell-Tonic Widely considered one of the most influential therapists of the modern age, John Gottman is an award-winning American psychological researcher with four decades of experience researching marital stability and divorce prediction. He has authored more...

In diesem Buch werden 8 Themen behandelt, die in romantischen Beziehungen besonders wichtig sein sollen. Für jedes dieser Themen soll man mit seinem Partner ein Date organisieren, bei dem man über dieses Thema spricht. Dafür gibt es im Buch eine Art Anleitung mit Fragebögen, offenen Fragen, zu vermeidenden Fehlern etc. While the expectations for marriage and partnership have never been higher, and the challenges have never been greater, it isn’t a coin toss. It’s not chance. It’s choice.” His high prediction rate is not a testament to the inevitably of failure, but rather to his understanding of what makes a relationship work and not work. And, while it’s helpful to know the four main reasons relationships fail, it’s equally critical to understand what makes them succeed. Generally, holidays are meant to commemorate some event, person, or group of cultural or religious significance. Although certain holidays, such as Christmas and New Year's Day, are widely celebrated worldwide, most countries have their own set of holidays that are specific to the country, and even the same holidays may be observed differently within countries: some may receive a full suspension of typical daily activities, while others may only get partial days off. Certain countries have holidays that essentially shut down almost all businesses. As an example, in Brazil, Carnaval do Brasil results in almost a full week in which only industrial production, retail establishments, or carnival-related businesses, function.

There is SO MUCH interesting info in this book! I know not everyone is going to froth at the mouth over learning how couples interact with each other, but I seriously couldn’t get enough. It’s all so interesting to me, discovering what is “normal” and what actually creates a lasting connection, especially when it doesn’t necessarily match up with what I expected. Some of my favorite insights:

More importantly, we realized that we’ll never stop learning about one another, and we look forward to sharing more about our family histories, spiritual beliefs, financial practices, and yes, sexual preferences. An early indicator of the future success of a marriage happens during pregnancy and the birth of a child. If a husband (the study only involved heterosexual couples) is involved during pregnancy and birth, the marriage will be happier later on. A father tends to stay involved with the children through the years if his marriage has low conflict and there is continued sex. It’s extremely easy for us to be caught up in our adult lives adulting about serious adult matters. What we actually need is to make time for play and fun. To maintain a healthy relationship, couples need to find time for play in their relationship. You also have to respect each other’s sense of adventure, even if it’s different than yours. This date will have you discuss these topics and have a little fun in the process.Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love is a book by John Gottman that provides a guide for couples to deepen their understanding of each other and strengthen their relationship through eight conversations. The book is based on Gottman’s research on couples and relationships, and aims to provide couples with the tools and skills they need to have meaningful and productive conversations about their relationship.

by John Gottman PhD (Author), Julie Schwartz Gottman PhD (Author), Doug Abrams (Author), Rachel Carlton Abrams (Author) & What we learned:It was fun to laugh and reminisce over photos and reflect on how we’ve grown up together over the last four years. I think this date will vary greatly for each couple depending on how religious or spiritual they are. One revelation was how much weekly Shabbat dinners meant to me growing up, and how I’d like to recreate that ritual in our future family. Express tolerance, empathy, and understanding toward your partner during an intimate conversation. So, try making empathic statements such as “I understand how you feel” or “I’m on your side.” Don’t let your partner doubt your presence and your compassion at no point. The eight most important elements of a successful marriage are fidelity, good sex, division of chores, adequate income, good housing, shared religious beliefs, shared interests, and children. What we learned:The exercise led to a great insight about how we approach keeping the house clean. I tend to let the house turn into a disaster zone over several days, and then clean up all at once, during a podcast-fueled spree. Scott explained that when I let the house get messy, he feels like I’m saying that I think my time is more valuable than his. I understood his perspective and committed to taking the time to tidy up daily, so that Scott doesn’t have to forge a path to the bathroom through piles of shoes and books.The five most common subjects that couples fight about are money, sex, in-laws, alcohol or drug use, and parenting. The Meaning and Purpose Date: This date is focused on exploring and understanding each other’s sense of purpose and meaning in life, and how this aligns with the relationship. The goal of this date is to help couples understand and align their sense of purpose and meaning in life with the relationship. This may involve discussing each partner’s values, goals, and aspirations, and exploring the ways in which the relationship supports and enhances each partner’s sense of purpose and meaning in life. This date is designed to help couples build a stronger and more fulfilling relationship by understanding and aligning their sense of purpose and meaning in life with the relationship. Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love, written by the Gottman's of the Gottman Institute, is a book about growing, learning about and supporting your romantic partner. The Gottman's look at some of the main sources of conflict and misunderstanding in relationships, and break these categories down into eight dates covering the following: trust and commitment, conflict, sex and intimacy, work and money, family, fun and adventure, growth and spirituality, and finally dreams and aspirations. Each date contains a paragraph to read, with questions to ask and answer for each partner.

The adoption of the Gregorian calendar occurred slowly over a period of centuries, and despite many proposals to further reform the calendar, the Gregorian Calendar still prevails as the most commonly used dating system worldwide. Holidays I think largely because of my age and COVID-induced introspection, my friends in recent months have turned their focus towards topics like emotional maturity and personal life. Discussions often come to relationships, dating apps, and friends who could pair

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fusion_text][fusion_text columns=”” column_min_width=”” column_spacing=”” rule_style=”default” rule_size=”” rule_color=”” hide_on_mobile=”small-visibility,medium-visibility,large-visibility” class=”” id=”” animation_type=”” animation_direction=”left” animation_speed=”0.3″ animation_offset=””] Gottman & Gottman are a husband and wife marriage and divorce counselor pair. They run a prominent marriage institute in Seattle, to which Microsoft provides corporate benefits and many older employees have gone through with delight. They and the co-authors have recorded thousands of couples and claim to be able to predict if a couple will stay together with astonishing accuracy. I don’t believe the actual statistics, but I get the point - they probably know something about what keeps people in love. Conflict. Conflict happens in every relationship, and it’s a myth to believe that in a happy relationship you’ll get along all the time. Relationship conflict serves a purpose. It’s an opportunity to get to know your partner better and to develop deeper intimacy as you talk about and work through your differences.