She sits on the stairs with him facing her a few steps further down so he is at perfect level to enter her. She lifts one leg up and rests it against his body leaving both him and her with something to push against (her the stairs and him her leg) for greater thrusting and penetration. Day 1—Have sex at a time other than before bed. Lunch time romp, morning sex, or after work workout. We recommend the Cowgirl/Cowboy for the analfirst-timer, since the receiving partner controls the pace and depth of penetration. You’re also face-to-face with your partner, allowing for lots of intimacy as well as easy communication. If a day is missed, an extra day will be added to the challenge increasing the challenge length from 30, 31, 32, and so on. The challenge will not exceed 40 days.

Forget the chocolate calendar, you need to be thinking more along the lines of chocolate body paint and flavoured lube. Yes, why don’t you give your partner a real treat and complete the sex position advent calendar challenge together. Trying new positions can bring sparkle and fun into the bedroom, which is exactly what sex should be about. You don’t have to be ridiculously flexible or overly kinky either, these are positions for everyone. Complete the 25-day challenge and have a smile on your face each day of December! Day 30—Stay up all night—or as long as you can, having sex. Have as much sex as possible today. Explore 27 days of favorites today and try to have either 5 orgasms or sex 5 times. For Queen Takes King, you’ll use your favorite chair (or any available surface) and have the receiving partner straddle the penetrating partner’s lap. The receiving partner can situate themselves however it feels comfortable, but feet planted on the ground is a nice way to start. From there, they can rotate, bounce, and grind to their heart’s content. If you’re looking for a hot self-lovin’ moment, the Superstar is where it’s at. Kneel on a soft surface with your torso upright, opening your knees to a comfortable position. Use your arm for support or lean against a wall and experiment with angles to find the explore the sensation. Another position made for anal newbies, On the Stomach is a great option for deep, gentle penetration. The big plus? The receiving partner gets to relax on their stomach, with some support from a pillow or blanket under their head. The chill position helps both partners get comfortable, which is a surefire way to make anal more comfortable and pleasurable.For some reason, people equate scheduled sex with boring sex. But it certainly doesn’t need to be! Here’s a simple idea: cut up a bunch of squares of paper, and write down some of your favorite sexual activities or experiences. For example, sex positions, toys, role-playing scenarios, and so on. You can also include things you’ve never tried before, but have been curious about. Fold up all of the slips and put them in a jar. The morning of your sex date, pull one out at random. Then you’ll have all day to plan and anticipate it. Or you can make your selection in the moment itself for a sexy surprise. This is the one time when fumbling in the end zone is actually a good thing. This position is all hands in the best way — between the legs, sliding down the belly, all over the chest, etc. Pull your partner close and enjoy. For your inspiration, here are thirty ideas for positions where the woman is dominant because she controls the situation and the intensity of gestures and movements during the sexual act. You could surprise your partner with your favourite position from the list. Or perhaps you prefer to look through these positions with your partner, to warm up the atmosphere and raise the temperature? This is a great opportunity for the penetrating partner to easily stimulate the clitoris with their hands and get a great view at the same time,” says Alden. “It doesn’t require a ton of physical labor, just a little flexibility. It’s also an opportune moment for people who are feeling exposed or body-conscious to practice self-acceptance.”

Look, there’s a reason so many of us have lap dance fantasies. This position is a sexy and fairly simple way to get both partners turned on fast while giving the receiving partner lots of control, which always makes things extra steamy. Bring your fantasy to life in this hotter-than-hot standing move. If the receiving partner is the one wearing the heels, they’ll be at the exact right height for deep penetration when they lean over a bed or table. To begin, he sits on the bed, with his legs outstretched. Then she climbs on top of him, and wraps her legs around him while he pulls her closer. Then she moves up and down and takes total control. This is a great position for deep penetration and intimacy. Each partner gets two VETO days in which they can choose to just have sex and bypass a specific day’s activity. Yep, turns out a beach ball can turn into the bouncy sex prop you never knew you needed. It provides lots of soft support to the receiving partner, who leans their body over the ball while the penetrating partner enters from behind. Bonus: suspending yourself above the ground reduces the risk of sand getting into uncomfortable places.

A Lazy Grind

If you’re a fan of cowgirl and girl-on-top, this position will be a natural fit for you. “While it’s not the easiest of positions, it gives the partner on top ultimate control and deep penetration from a different angle,” says Nelson. “You should also self-stimulate the clitoris at the same time to have a possible blended orgasm.” The Uncloak the Clitoris sex position is here to remind you that you’re never too cool for hand stuff. Another reminder: the vast majority of people with vulvas can’t orgasm from penetration alone (which is totally fine — and orgasm isn’t the point of good sex anyway!). But if you are looking to help your partner get off, keeping your hands free to give their clitoris some love is an expert move. Your weight can mostly held by your knees and thighs, so don’t get too wound up about “crushing” your partner — just make sure they feel comfortable communicating how much pressure is good from you on top! Condoms and birth control should be used when desired or required. Here’s what each eventful day of the month looks like if you take up the challenge: Lotus is anothergreat opportunity for clitoral stimulation,” says Alden. “This position can be difficult to get into a groove with and find balance, but definitelyworth a try due to the closeness and heat that comes with it.”

Getting oral with your legs closed turns arousal up to 11. This position puts all the pressure right where you want it, so if an intense orgasm is what you’re after, you’ll want to give it a try. He lifts her up facing him as she wraps her legs around his waist and grips with her thighs as he pins her against the wall and begins to thrust. This is an amazingly hot sex position, which after 20 days of advent, you should be warmed up enough for. Day 13—She brings him to orgasm, no intercourse, hands, mouth, and body only. Bonus Play: Use breast or feet to bring partner to orgasm. The Reverse Slither position is a whole new way to take it from behind, including plenty of opportunities to stimulate the breasts and clit. The rear-entry position is always exciting, and your heads are right next to each other, the perfect spot for kissing or some dirty talk. The blindfolds that both partners (!) use in this move will remove every last inhibition. The receiving partner is on top this time, with their heels planted on the bed for leverage and the perfect angle. Just make sure you get into position beforeslipping on the blindfolds.

The Teddy Bear

You may know this position by its other less SFW name —“face sitting”— but Queening in Bondage is when a partner recieves oral stimulation while resting on or above their partner’s mouth. Adding restraint play to this is yet another way to up the sensation and intensity of the scene or sexual encounter, allowing the receiving partner to really own the power of the pose (as pictured here) or offering an equally sexy subversion if you switch places. This is a perfect position for fast passionate sex. She lies on her front as he places a cushion under her stomach and pelvic area.Spread her legs a little, and then enter her from behind. So whether it's a one-off or your usual style, if you want to dominate or get the upper hand over your partner, try out these new positions where you will set the pace and take your partner on the path to pleasure!

An interpretation of doggy style for one? Yes, please! Slip a pillow or two under your stomach and hips for support and use your hands or a toy (or both!) to light things up. The Layer Cake is an intimate grinding move allows for maximum clitoral stimulation, and believe us, you’ll see why. The receiving partner can lie flat on top, either facing towards or away from the penetrating partner (both are equally fun), and grasp the edge of the bed to get some friction going. And this position is nothing if not versatile! The penetrating partner can also be on top, using their arms to pump and grind. Day 16—Advanced level Kama Sutra. Find two or three challenging positions to try. Again, avoid injury. Pro tip: “Differences of height with partners can be helped by placing one partner lying on a pillow on their side,” says certified sex therapist Marissa Nelson. “It will give the receiving partner an extra boost so the penetrating partner can enter at a better angle, making it more pleasurable for both.” Each of these positions has its own unique benefits, and allows you to find pleasure in new ways. It's up to you to try them to find the ones that suit you best and that you want to repeat. Of course you can take these positions and modify them as you wish, because in love nothing is fixed and everything is possible!

Climb on top of your partner while they’re sitting with their legs straight ahead. This is a great one for serious friction, deep penetration and feeling intimate and close — a winner all-around. “Instead of bouncing up and down, try grinding simultaneously,” says Nelson. “They can also put their hand on your butt for more assertive and deeper penetration.” The clit is a super sensitive part of the body with more than 8,000 nerve endings in the tip alone, so giving it some gentle — and ideally, lubricated! — swirls, circles, and strokes is the easiest way to up your game as a lover. Just ask your partner what they like best!